Have you ever wondered why people around you do some of the things they do?
You are not alone. Parents, pastors, scientists, teachers and doctors have been studying human personality and behaviours for thousands of years to figure out how to respond to the everyday things people do.
When you are in the daily process of those daily necessary actions to solve conflicts at home and/or work then you also need to take time to understand the personalities that surround you at home, work, and in your community. Personality, the most significant part of who you are, is important to understand because it allows you to respond intelligently to the everyday situations that occur in marriage, home, family, work, and community relationships.
As you search for ways to maintain more peace and fewer power struggles with people around you, we all need to learn how to understand the personalities that surround us.
Some may declare, “I was Born that Way- so deal with it!” While this may be a common reaction that some people use to justify their inappropriate behavior; it is still not an excuse. However, people really are born a certain way, designed by God for a purpose within their own unique individual personality. The remainder of your personality development comes from early childhood, school, and life experiences. Our own personal DNA makes us who we are; it it our own personal "road map" to our unique and original design by God. He created us all different. This fact can be really irritating and inconvenient to some but it is for His greater purpose and plans for each indiviual.
The goal is to find out why people around you do the things they do so you understand how to respond to achieve a greater result, and less frustrated in the process.
The study of personality types was at first categorized into 4 parts by Hippocrates, a Greek physician, hundreds of years before the time of Christ. He noticed there were distinct differences in people, and many other serious researchers have noticed the same.
Introverts
are the most common type of personality. These individuals are not necessarily shy, but they do prefer quiet. Introverts are energized by calm and peaceful settings, love being out in nature, enjoy the environment, soothing music or entertainment and the company of a few close friends or pets. Their emotional stability comes through these soothing experiences and are drained by large crowds and loud events, which is why they like to have their own "space" and do not like crowds. An introvert under stress will tend to hold their emotions inside until they literally erupt with tears or anger and then when the flood of emotions pass; hate they lost control of themselves.
Extroverted personalities
are not as common, but they make up for it with volume. They fill a room with their over sized personalities. Writer and Life Coach, Dwight Bain, "They are energized by loud events and lengthy experiences because they seem to never get enough and don’t want the day to end. Concerts, sports, parades, big cities, New Year parties, trade shows, theme parks, seminars; it doe not matter, because the louder and more crowded the better! Remember, they pull energy from the environment around them, which exhausts the introverts who probably were coaxed into going with them. Their emotional batteries are charged up by these loud experiences and can go on and on like the Energizer Bunny™ seemingly for days without sleep when doing something they enjoy. You usually don’t have to guess about what they are thinking, because they sometimes impulsively just ‘tell it like it is’, which can hurt feelings of sensitive personalities, while giving them relief to have dumped their emotions out for others to deal with."
The four most common personality traits follow:
The Two Extroverted Personality Types ~
Choleric
are the task oriented individuals who prefer to be out front in leadership positions. This high energy individual is driven, ambitious, and usually goal oriented toward the things that are important to them as a person. The Choleric person likes to lead and motivate others to accomplish their goals and can sometimes overpower others or step on their feelings. Leaders in politics, military, and business are often a Choleric personality, which is the smallest percentage of the 4 types, but by far the most aggressive. On a negative note, Choleric personalities can become easily angry or moody when things do not go their way and are not afraid to create a conflict to get people moving toward their own pre-conceived goals.
Sanguine
is a people oriented person who loves to have a good time, sometimes at the expense of others. They are very loud of the two extroverted personalities and are often talented with great verbal communication, which is why they love to be on stage entertaining others. Dwight Bain shares, "Sanguine personalities love to meet new people, but often forget their names the moment they meet them! Leaders in entertainment, comedy, media, drama, ministry, public speaking and music are often from this group. Rarely on time, the Sanguine personality can be impulsive, unmotivated and can come across as egotistical and self-absorbed but usually don’t really mean to hurt the feelings of others. They are just so busy in their world that they forget there are 7 billion other people on the planet too. In the Bible the Apostle Peter is most like the popular Sanguine personality."
The Two Introverted Personality Types~
Phlegmatic
is a people oriented person who likes to work at their own pace and not be pressured. They absolutely hate conflict and will do just about anything, even to compromising their own desires and who they are as a person to get along with others. This is the largest personality group. More than half of the people you meet are likely to be Phlegmatic. They may have great ideas, but are sometimes too shy or embarrassed to step out and voice them, much to the frustration of the people who can see past their lack of confidence to spot their real potential.
Mr. Bain says, "The Phlegmatic have a few close family or friends and like to spend all of their time with the people they already know, so they don’t venture out very far to make new acquaintances. The loss of a friend from a move or breakup can be so devastating to a Phlegmatic because they are not usually comfortable going out to meet strangers. They are stable people and liked by those who associate with them. They can have great success in management, administration, nursing or education. They are most loyal of the 4 personalities; they are also the most sensitive. They are gentle and compassionate individuals with big hearts. They quickly spot the needs of others, but can easily get their own feelings hurt because of this overly sensitive side. They don’t like change and love to keep life predictable; which is why they work so hard to keep things stable in their family, school or work situation. The Phlegmatic is conscious of details which is why they are considered by many to be perfectionists; but only at the things which are important to them. They are often the most creative of the 4 personality types, both in the arts or in solving complex problems. This personality type is likely to be so quiet that they don’t reach out to make a lot of friends, but can be gentle and compassionate when you take time to get to know them. They think far more than talk, so when they voice their opinion they usually have a lot to say."
Melancholy
traits may cause a person to go back into what some people call their introverted ‘cave’ because, Mr. Bain explains, "they often would prefer to spend time with their own thoughts than spending time with others. They can be moody from suppressing so many emotions, which can come across as depressive, sullen, temperamental or critical. There are many careers where this personality can excel, because many authors, musicians, accountants, scientists and researchers have this trait. Perfect Melancholic’s are always driven to do things right."
Your personality is a basic element inside you and there are factors we all need to consider when searching for our best approach to respond and achieve better results at home, work, and the community. Birth-order, age, gender, family background, life experiences and education can heavily influence our behavior.
Additional reading~
Personality Plus- by Florence Littauer
Discovering your child design- by Ralph Mattson & Thom Black
Raising Children on Purpose- by Wesley H. Fleming
The Two Sides of Love- by Gary Smalley and John TrentPlus
“The Treasure Tree” - by Gary Smalley & John Trent to help kids understand their unique strengths.
You have great value in the sight of God and can be a whole person in all your relationships.
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Sunday, October 4, 2009
What does it profit?
My friends, I am getting frequent e-mails from people with concerns about the current events as they are unfolding in America and all the unrest in the entire globe every single day.
I completely understand where the thoughts and concerns are coming from and I am grieved as well to watch what is happening. However, we are also called to the reality of facts through the “eyes” of scripture.
“For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?” Matthew 16:26
“For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?” Mark 8:36
“For what is a man advantaged, if he gain the whole world, and lose himself, or be cast away?” Luke 9:25
Philippians 4 is a wonderful chapter and Psalm 37 makes it very clear as to how we are to respond to evil; that we are not to fret. The entire chapter is a wonderful outlay of answers for us as we face uncertain days ahead.
We must keep our focus on Jesus.
Focus~
“Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapor, that appears for a little time, and then vanishes away.” James 4:14
Focus~
“. . . observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you always, even unto the end of the world. Amen.”
Matthew 28:20
Focus~
“There is no fear in (God’s) love; but perfect love casts out fear. . .” I John 4:18
Focus~
“Be careful for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.” Philippians 4:6.
Focus~
“I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13
Focus~
“But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19
Thought for the week,
“Finally. . . whatsoever things are true, honest, just, pure, lovely, good report; think on these things!” Philippians 4:8
Have a great week,
Judith
Life Series ~ P.O. Box 1671 ~ Murfreesboro, TN 37133 ~ lifeseries@comcast.net
I completely understand where the thoughts and concerns are coming from and I am grieved as well to watch what is happening. However, we are also called to the reality of facts through the “eyes” of scripture.
“For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?” Matthew 16:26
“For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?” Mark 8:36
“For what is a man advantaged, if he gain the whole world, and lose himself, or be cast away?” Luke 9:25
Philippians 4 is a wonderful chapter and Psalm 37 makes it very clear as to how we are to respond to evil; that we are not to fret. The entire chapter is a wonderful outlay of answers for us as we face uncertain days ahead.
We must keep our focus on Jesus.
Focus~
“Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapor, that appears for a little time, and then vanishes away.” James 4:14
Focus~
“. . . observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you always, even unto the end of the world. Amen.”
Matthew 28:20
Focus~
“There is no fear in (God’s) love; but perfect love casts out fear. . .” I John 4:18
Focus~
“Be careful for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.” Philippians 4:6.
Focus~
“I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13
Focus~
“But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19
Thought for the week,
“Finally. . . whatsoever things are true, honest, just, pure, lovely, good report; think on these things!” Philippians 4:8
Have a great week,
Judith
Life Series ~ P.O. Box 1671 ~ Murfreesboro, TN 37133 ~ lifeseries@comcast.net
Everyday Business
Have you ever wondered how people go about their business every day and never seem to think about what will happen at the end of life? We prepare for everything on earth like we are going to live here forever! We think about today and our future on earth like it will last forever!
In actual reality we do not know what a day will bring to us! “Boast not of tomorrow; for you know not what a day may bring forth. “ Proverbs 27:1. As a nation, we are so consumed about our face, our hair, our body comforts, our clothes, the car we drive, the house we live in; everything that pertains to the outside. I am all for looking the best possible and living as well as possible but when these things become an obsession, it is overdone! However, we do need to stop long enough to think about the inside heart of things for our peace of mind and what really matters for our eternal life! “Be still, and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the heathen; I will be exalted in the earth.” Psalm 46:10
Do you ever look at a picture of a person, family or group from decades or centuries past and pause for a minute to think about how that person or community of people lived? What were their dreams? What was his/her work ethics? How did he/she view life and death? What would he or she have changed about his or her thinking and actions while alive if they were given a second chance?
Our existence as a mortal being does reach the end of life as we know it on earth but there is an eternity to look forward to or an eternity to dread. There is a Heaven to gain and a Hell to shun! The decision becomes ours to make; always has been ours to make. God, the Father gave us free choice. We are not forced into anything. Our physical life on this earth~ is not a question of “if” but “when” the end will come! “It is appointed unto men (women) once to die but after this the judgment.” Hebrews 9:27
I do not need to know all there is to know about everything in the Bible but I DO need to know and accept Jesus. He is our way into Heaven. He came to die for us because His love for us was (and is) more than I will ever understand this side of Heaven! Seventy five years of an average life span on this earth is but one small grain of sand in comparison to an entire beach of individual sand grains of life and that is only the just beginning of eternity!
In the web video to follow, the people who went to work and lost their lives on the morning of September 11, 2001 had no idea that particular Tuesday morning would be their last day alive. How many were prepared spiritually for their last day on earth? How many made preparation for eternity in the same way they prepared for their career in the towers? How many made peace with God by acknowledging their inability to approach the Father on their own terms but instead made a decision while living to accept Jesus as their own personal Savior and immediately had a relationship with God the Father?
We keep hearing about the “American Dream”. Why not consider a relationship with Jesus first, make Him a reality in your life and then allow God to guide you in your daily pursuits. If life does not unfold the way you hope in your dreams, you at least, have taken care of your eternal destiny; and eternal life my friends, is a reality whether you make the right decision or not!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gzg1qL6b4uk
Forgiveness
We cannot have eternal life and Heaven without God’s forgiveness.
“In whom we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of
sins, according to the riches of His (God’s) grace” --Ephesians 1:7
Available
Forgiveness is available. It is –
AVAILABLE FOR ALL
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that
whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting
life.” --John 3:16
BUT NOT AUTOMATIC
“Not every one that says unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the
kingdom of Heaven; but he that does the will of my Father which is
in Heaven.” --Matthew 7:21
Impossible
It is impossible for God to allow sin into Heaven.
GOD IS—
- LOVE
John 3:16
- JUST
“For he shall have judgment without mercy, that hath shown no mercy; and mercy rejoices
against judgment.” -- James 2:13
- MAN IS SINFUL
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God” --Romans 3:23
Turn
Turn means repent. TURN from something—sin and self
“I tell you, except you repent, you shall all likewise perish.” Luke 13:3
TURN to someone; trust Christ only
The Bible tells us~ “For I delivered unto you first of all that
which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to
the scriptures; And that he was buried and that he rose again the third
day according to the scriptures” --I Corinthians 15:3 and 4
“That if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus, and shall
believe in your heart that God hath raised him from the dead, you
shall be saved.” --Romans10:9
Heaven
Heaven is eternal life.
HERE
“The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am
come that they might have life, and that they might have it more
abundantly.” --John 10:10
HEREAFTER
“And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and
receive you unto myself; that where I am, there ye may be also”
--John 14:3
HOW
How can a person have God’s forgiveness, Heaven and eternal life,
and Jesus as personal Savior and Lord?
It is all summed up in FAITH ~Forsaking All I Trust Him
Romans 10:9.
The original outline above came from LifeWay. ~Check the following website for answers to your questions for more information about materials available to you. www.lifeway.com On home page under “search”, type “Faith Training”.
Thought for the week,
What on earth is worth missing Heaven?!
JudithLife Series ~ P.O. Box 1671 ~ Murfreesboro, TN 37133 ~ lifeseries@comcast.net
In actual reality we do not know what a day will bring to us! “Boast not of tomorrow; for you know not what a day may bring forth. “ Proverbs 27:1. As a nation, we are so consumed about our face, our hair, our body comforts, our clothes, the car we drive, the house we live in; everything that pertains to the outside. I am all for looking the best possible and living as well as possible but when these things become an obsession, it is overdone! However, we do need to stop long enough to think about the inside heart of things for our peace of mind and what really matters for our eternal life! “Be still, and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the heathen; I will be exalted in the earth.” Psalm 46:10
Do you ever look at a picture of a person, family or group from decades or centuries past and pause for a minute to think about how that person or community of people lived? What were their dreams? What was his/her work ethics? How did he/she view life and death? What would he or she have changed about his or her thinking and actions while alive if they were given a second chance?
Our existence as a mortal being does reach the end of life as we know it on earth but there is an eternity to look forward to or an eternity to dread. There is a Heaven to gain and a Hell to shun! The decision becomes ours to make; always has been ours to make. God, the Father gave us free choice. We are not forced into anything. Our physical life on this earth~ is not a question of “if” but “when” the end will come! “It is appointed unto men (women) once to die but after this the judgment.” Hebrews 9:27
I do not need to know all there is to know about everything in the Bible but I DO need to know and accept Jesus. He is our way into Heaven. He came to die for us because His love for us was (and is) more than I will ever understand this side of Heaven! Seventy five years of an average life span on this earth is but one small grain of sand in comparison to an entire beach of individual sand grains of life and that is only the just beginning of eternity!
In the web video to follow, the people who went to work and lost their lives on the morning of September 11, 2001 had no idea that particular Tuesday morning would be their last day alive. How many were prepared spiritually for their last day on earth? How many made preparation for eternity in the same way they prepared for their career in the towers? How many made peace with God by acknowledging their inability to approach the Father on their own terms but instead made a decision while living to accept Jesus as their own personal Savior and immediately had a relationship with God the Father?
We keep hearing about the “American Dream”. Why not consider a relationship with Jesus first, make Him a reality in your life and then allow God to guide you in your daily pursuits. If life does not unfold the way you hope in your dreams, you at least, have taken care of your eternal destiny; and eternal life my friends, is a reality whether you make the right decision or not!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gzg1qL6b4uk
Forgiveness
We cannot have eternal life and Heaven without God’s forgiveness.
“In whom we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of
sins, according to the riches of His (God’s) grace” --Ephesians 1:7
Available
Forgiveness is available. It is –
AVAILABLE FOR ALL
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that
whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting
life.” --John 3:16
BUT NOT AUTOMATIC
“Not every one that says unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the
kingdom of Heaven; but he that does the will of my Father which is
in Heaven.” --Matthew 7:21
Impossible
It is impossible for God to allow sin into Heaven.
GOD IS—
- LOVE
John 3:16
- JUST
“For he shall have judgment without mercy, that hath shown no mercy; and mercy rejoices
against judgment.” -- James 2:13
- MAN IS SINFUL
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God” --Romans 3:23
Turn
Turn means repent. TURN from something—sin and self
“I tell you, except you repent, you shall all likewise perish.” Luke 13:3
TURN to someone; trust Christ only
The Bible tells us~ “For I delivered unto you first of all that
which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to
the scriptures; And that he was buried and that he rose again the third
day according to the scriptures” --I Corinthians 15:3 and 4
“That if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus, and shall
believe in your heart that God hath raised him from the dead, you
shall be saved.” --Romans10:9
Heaven
Heaven is eternal life.
HERE
“The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am
come that they might have life, and that they might have it more
abundantly.” --John 10:10
HEREAFTER
“And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and
receive you unto myself; that where I am, there ye may be also”
--John 14:3
HOW
How can a person have God’s forgiveness, Heaven and eternal life,
and Jesus as personal Savior and Lord?
It is all summed up in FAITH ~Forsaking All I Trust Him
Romans 10:9.
The original outline above came from LifeWay. ~Check the following website for answers to your questions for more information about materials available to you. www.lifeway.com On home page under “search”, type “Faith Training”.
Thought for the week,
What on earth is worth missing Heaven?!
JudithLife Series ~ P.O. Box 1671 ~ Murfreesboro, TN 37133 ~ lifeseries@comcast.net
Life Coach with LIFE SERIES
I am available ~
as a Life Coach to anyone who needs encouragement and a better understanding of life principles for success. I also bring a unique perspective from a “clinical” viewpoint through class sessions I have attended with the AACC; American Association of Christian Counselors. www.aacc.net . This organization with its fifty thousand plus members across the entire world, have seminars set up with classes for counselors, psychologists, psychiatrists, therapist specialists and a career as a Life Coach.
As a result of class sessions from my attendance of five past AACC World Conferences held at the Opryland Hotel, Nashville, TN, I have listened carefully to those who are in my care. I have an understanding from a professional viewpoint while at the same time acquired understanding through personal Life Coaching experiences for 10 years.
I have been involved with One On One and group Life Coaching since 1999. In those years I have compiled a 130 page notebook which has developed out of my own experiences with those who have been in my care as a Life Coach.
It has been and is my privilege to assist in life challenges. I know how much it would have meant to me, had someone walked along side to encourage and help me in positive ways when I was a younger woman.
Judith Karen
Schedule a Session: www.lifeseriescoach.com
P.O. Box 1671
Murfreesboro, TN 37133
lifeseries@comcast.net
as a Life Coach to anyone who needs encouragement and a better understanding of life principles for success. I also bring a unique perspective from a “clinical” viewpoint through class sessions I have attended with the AACC; American Association of Christian Counselors. www.aacc.net . This organization with its fifty thousand plus members across the entire world, have seminars set up with classes for counselors, psychologists, psychiatrists, therapist specialists and a career as a Life Coach.
As a result of class sessions from my attendance of five past AACC World Conferences held at the Opryland Hotel, Nashville, TN, I have listened carefully to those who are in my care. I have an understanding from a professional viewpoint while at the same time acquired understanding through personal Life Coaching experiences for 10 years.
I have been involved with One On One and group Life Coaching since 1999. In those years I have compiled a 130 page notebook which has developed out of my own experiences with those who have been in my care as a Life Coach.
It has been and is my privilege to assist in life challenges. I know how much it would have meant to me, had someone walked along side to encourage and help me in positive ways when I was a younger woman.
Judith Karen
Schedule a Session: www.lifeseriescoach.com
P.O. Box 1671
Murfreesboro, TN 37133
lifeseries@comcast.net
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